This holiday season with my husband’s car accident and all that has ensued, I wondered if I’d be able to keep up a simple, downshifted existence. Reflecting back on the past three crazy weeks, I think that keeping things simple has helped me tremendously and will continue to serve me well. The simple life is not only relevant in times of crisis, but life-saving.
Everyone faces different challenges in life, but I think that there’s a common thread in the difficulties we all experience. During the most challenging days, I found myself looking back on struggles friends and family had told me about in the past for wisdom. You may never face exactly the same worries, but someday you may find yourself in a situation where the same coping skills will help. In the past weeks, I never ceased to find myself thankful NOT to have to worry about certain things because of our downshifted lifestyle. I also found that living simply had given me access to certain resources that helped me be more resilient during the hardest moments.
If you ever find yourself in hard times, living the simple life means you don’t have to worry about certain additional complications.
Money is less of a problem when your finances are under control and your needs are few. DH and I have zero debt. We also know exactly how much it costs us to live month to month and what items we can cut out if we need to. We have savings and can tell exactly how long they will last–enough time for us not to have to worry about money in the medium term. Our savings should easily outstretch any time of need due to our low cost of living.
I can’t imagine worrying about my husband’s health and money at once, although I know many, many people face that problem. In addition to our low cost of living and careful budgeting and saving, we also live in a country with a fantastic notion of social security. I got tears in my eyes when the secretary in the intensive care unit told me that everything was taken care of–because I know this is not the case everywhere in the world. The government will foot the entire bill, and later, they will go after the other driver’s insurance company for the reimbursement. We don’t have to scramble to make ends meet.
DH and I have been frugal not simply with our money but also with our time, which means we don’t have overwhelming responsibilities and time commitments in addition to our current concerns. We don’t have a large apartment that demands a lot of upkeep or complex investments that need tending to. If I’d had a job, it is almost certain that I would have been forced to quit it–but I’m lucky enough to have time and money to devote to more pressing needs.
We live a low-maintenance lifestyle that is easy to keep up even in times of crisis. I cook much of our food from scratch, and I originally thought this would make things harder, however, I have plenty of dry staples so I can usually whip up a meal in a pinch out of something that’s in the cupboard–even with guests. This is handy because I have in-laws staying with me. The hot box is also a lifesaver. I simply chop up and boil whatever I have on hand, stick it in the hot box and return to a warm meal in the evening. I have very easy to care for clothing so laundry is a snap–stick in the machine and dry on the rack nearby when it’s done. Cleaning is completely easy even with guests since our apartment is small and uncluttered.
Living simply allows you to build certain strengths that help during tough times.
Because we don’t spend so many hours working, consuming, shopping, entertaining ourselves and maintaining possessions, we’ve invested plenty of time in our relationships with family and friends. I cannot even begin to express the kind of support we’ve had from loved ones. We have MORE help and support than we can even use, which is incredibly reassuring.
We have time for reflection and spirituality in our lives. Through this crisis, I’ve definitely noticed that people who have a sense of what life is about and a clear idea of their relationship with life and death (among other great questions), have a leg up on coping. I don’t attend church and don’t consider myself religious in any traditional sense, but I have a very active meditation and yoga practice and a strong and stable philosophy or understanding about spirituality. I don’t often discuss religion or spiritual beliefs, but I will say that nothing can replace knowing what you think/believe BEFORE a crisis hits. I don’t believe in heaven or reincarnation in any true sense of the words, but a stable, reflective outlook on life is perhaps the best coping strategy I’ve employed. When you over-commit yourself in terms of time and money, you really lose out on your ability to draw on spiritual and philosophical reserves–in my own experience at least.
DH and I both have active creative and social interests. I have not only this blog, but also several other cheap, accessible and easy to maintain creative outlets that are there for me when I have time and need to return to some sense of ‘normal’ functioning. DH is a little more separated from his typical activities because of his energy levels and his stay in intensive care, but he’s already started to listen to music and work on his Sudoku puzzles again when he has energy.
Sometimes you see people flustering about as if they were already at the point of breaking–when daily life already has such an effect on you, it makes you wonder what you’ll do in an emergency. I’ve certainly felt the stresses of living a frantic and fast-paced life in the past. I know what it’s like to feel like I can barely keep up with what’s ‘normal’ and to feel vulnerable to anything out of the ‘ordinary’ that inevitably pops up. I’ve lived through tough times before and surely will again, but am convinced that our simpler lifestyle has made coping much easier this time around.